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October 27, 2017

The Things We Learn

The Things We Learn

I write articles based on my own experiences. Some don’t apply to me, but I like the sayings. I have written over 100 articles and have over 4 million hits. Someone must be reading. And someone must bring the information to them if it’s helpful in their lives. I believe I am that person. Not a bad person, just someone who’s been through enough negativity to be able to share. My experiences go from over drinking and alcoholism  consequences to mental illness, of which I am a member. I raised 3 children who are good adults, and I am proud of them. However, I didn’t have as much patience as I do now. Not just with them, with everything.


I had a lack of patience or tolerance. If i dropped something, it was a big deal with cursing and body gestures. I had a desire to argue. I would argue with anyone who had a different point of view. I showed the side of me that was negative and hurtful, to myself and others. I would do anything for a friend, and i was kind and nice to everyone outside the home. I wanted to lower the stress level in my life, but didn’t know how. I was introduced to a program called DBT (dialectical behavior therapy.) This program has simple rules to lessen the friction in one’s life. I think we know them, we just don't’ know how to use them successfully.


Sayings such as ‘how important is it?” began to filter into my mind and I began to calm down. “Just do it” was a huge help. If something slipped out of my hands and crashed on the floor, I simply cleaned it up. After doing this several times, in different situations, I learned how to just tackle what is at hand instead of putting it off. Or not doing it at all. I know I get overwhelmed at times, and I didn’t know how to control it. I know a lot more than I did, but I still have improvements I’d like to make. However, I don't get upset over the same things I used to, and that's a good start. I try not to get too overwhelmed. When one suffers with bipolar, every day can be different. Any moment can be different!


I believe we are all here for various reasons. Some are nurses, some teachers and doctors and some the “nice” lady down the street. So many of us are angry about something. First forgive, and then, let it go. Forgiving, is the hardest for me. And for those who read my articles, I think you know both crohn's and mental illness are high on my list of things to make better. I don't’ feel good when I argue. I guess I can see the reasons not to now. I have to either accept my circumstances, or make them better. I choose to make them better. I try to practice what I preach but there are times I fall short. Every day can’t be perfect; that’s when we use the skills. For those who don’t believe mental illness is a disease, or a condition that causes headaches, body aches, dehydration, rashes, lack of sleep, depression and heartaches, among other things, then you really should .


I don’t know what it is, but I am convinced that a certain liquid in my brain-serotonin or melatonin or something, is not connecting one side of my brain to the other. I think about nice things that make me smile, followed by tragic circumstances that make me cry, then I’m back to smiling. I take medication for both, which helps, but the rest is up to me. I think of a tube, where one liquid doesn’t flow all the way through. It’s supposed to meet up in the middle, but there’s a break there. The medicine helps add to my liquids and that does a lot. If I am deficient in reading or my immune system, I might have had a piano teacher that didn’t know the liquid responsible for creativity might not be connecting.


I’m not lazy. I raised 3 kids, 2 dogs, and a cat and cleaned a few houses. I took care of my home and my kids. I tried to teach them values-I think I succeeded in most. Then, I started with chest pain every time I got upset. I was in the hospital and a woman came in and told me about the DBT program. I went to a clinician for 45 minutes and a 2 hour long class with others, once a week. I’m not stupid, I graduated from that and am now in the advanced course. I simply have parts of my brain that don’t connect. Bipolar and other mental conditions are real. No one would ever want to feel uncomfortable things, or go into a depression they are afraid may not end. No one wants to feel alone. No one wants to think in a depressed fashion. And no one wants to pray for the God of their understanding to take them in their sleep.


Before one becomes involved with someone with bipolar, they should look it up and read up on it. I have it, it’s real, and it should not be judged or demoralized. i don’t want to have a lack of  ambition, or be tired all the time or in pain from the crohn’s. Both conditions or diseases are better now and the calmer I get, the better.  However, crohn’s and bipolar will come out to play whenever they feel like it. So, i try to surround myself with good people at heart and keep myself busy except for the times bipolar or crohn’s stops by. I write my articles on alcoholism, bipolar, relationships, depression and my thoughts, in the hope that my words will help someone. I would be honored if they did.


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Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, and a daughter. They are adults now, and out of the house on their own.

Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.

She has been on a journey of self discovery for over thirty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some resemblance of calm and peace within.

If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.

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