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Finding My Focus In A Mind Filled With Thoughts

August 4, 2017

Finding My Focus In A Mind Filled With Thoughts

My mind has a thousand thoughts going round and around. One thought crosses out another, and I try to focus on one positive thing. This lasts about a minute! Next thing you know, I’m back on the treadmill again. Those thoughts of what is my daughter and two sons doing? They are all out of the house now, but I still worry. I think about them everyday. When I realize what my mind is doing, I pull myself back. I think about pleasant things and compose myself enough to manage one thing at a time. One current thing at a time. It’s not an easy task. It takes practice to focus. Not for all of us, but for some.

I’m still searching for the knowledge to stop worrying about what might be, and  concentrate on what is happening now. I am making a list of happy times that I can go to  when I am feeling overwhelmed and unable to focus. Things happen when we aren’t focusing. We may count our change wrong at the store. We may make mistakes paying the bills. We may forget someone close to us has had a birthday. We may forget we put the skillet on, and burn our hands. We may not drive the way we should. Things don’t seem to be going well while our mind is entertaining a hundred scenarios.

I also forget things when I’m not focused. It’s as if I am trying to cram too much in my head. I want all that to be gone so I am trying to train my brain to focus more. I don’t think I ever watched a movie without thinking about something else. The only thing I really focus on is memories. Sometimes, I don’t even hear what someone is saying to me. It is also easy to lose things such as your keys or your wallet. You might leave things behind, at a friend’s house or a store, all because you weren’t focused.

I think one needs to be relaxed and mindful of their surroundings. Confident that they can learn how to focus more. You might have a child or grandchild who has been talking to you and asks what you think about what they just said. You can fake it, or ask them to repeat it. It’s not earthshaking, but that little boy may now feel as if his words didn’t matter. The effort has to be made to be more focused. One may also fall and hurt themselves because they weren’t being focused. While trying to climb stairs, when too many thoughts are flooding your mind, can become a dangerous issue.

Next time, clear your mind first, and handle whatever situation arises without thinking about all the other things you have to do, the chores that need to be done. Eventually, you can have peace in being focused and mindful.  Everyday life can be enjoyed. You  don't have to bring yesterday’s failures into a new day. Only we can control our own thoughts. As hard as it may be, we can do it, even for a little while. As we practice, we should get better at it. We will know what we are doing and with whom each day. We will remember to pick up the baby at daycare. We won't burn ourselves with the curling iron, forgetting we turned it on.

We won’t be late for our daughter’s recital.We won’t forget to put the crockpot on and come home from work expecting a meal. We can think about other things, it’s just a bad idea to let those thoughts take over.  There’s a time and a place for everything. As long as we can remember that and learn to stay focused, our lives should become much calmer and easier to deal with. 

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Susan Thom is the mother of three children, two sons, and a daughter. They are adults now, and out of the house on their own.

Writing calms her, and gives her a place to go by herself! Clears the head and gets it out. She lives in a rural area, with a lake and mountains, and her partner, and has loved writing since she was a child.

She has been on a journey of self discovery for over thirty years, and has learned many things about the human mind, and how to maintain some resemblance of calm and peace within.

If someone reads one of her stories, and relates to her feelings, and gets a suggestion on how she dealt with them in a positive way, that would be the ultimate gift of her writing.
 

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